Archive for August, 2010

The End of American Optimism? Not a Chance!

Sunday, August 29th, 2010

Recently I was reading a piece by Mort Zuckerman in the Wall Street Journal Opinion section http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703960004575427332237529948.html.
He stated that “Our brief national encounter with optimism is now well and truly over.” What an awful sentiment. While he is referring to the feeble economic recovery, I still take umbrage with this notion. Never, ever in our lifetimes should we lose our hope, faith, and optimism. To do so is to lose our way, to lose the very certainty and joy that we are capable of experiencing – irrespective of economic conditions, the party in power, or whichever way the wind is blowing.

It’s not the End of Old America, It’s the Beginning of New America

Clearly 14.5 million people out of work is a staggering, troubling, and heart-wrenching number. But viewed through a lens of optimism, this number also represents 14.5 million people who can and should remain resiliently hopeful and optimistic about their place in this world if they are to seize this opportunity to take the reins of their life and create something purposefully authentic that provides more control over their destinies. With the right support, approach and belief, 14.5 million people can delve deep within to create anew in a way that improves not only their lives, but fundamentally changes the arc of our country’s destiny.  14.5 million people collectively and creatively expressing themselves in a way that not only pays the bills, but brings them deep-soul joy would be a powerful harbinger to a joyous, more peaceful world.

Time to Re-Assess

It is precisely when our external circumstances have gone to hell in a hand-basket that we can and must Live with Certainty. We can make a choice either to be jerked around and coerced into thinking and acting from a place of desperation, or we can continue in the midst of the storm to live from our purest essence always making choices that align with our highest good, our deepest desire to serve, our most profound joy, and our steadfast optimism and belief in a better, brighter today and tomorrow.

Your Brightest Future Comes from Within Yourself

Your brightest days need not depend upon someone else, nor do they depend upon media pundits’ declarations that either the sky is falling or that happy days are here again. You owe it to yourself to live with inner certainty, inspiration, and optimism everyday.

Here, now, today, the choice is yours to Live with Certainty, to identify, believe, and execute toward your dreams, and to never lose sight of the optimism and greatness that you were placed on this planet to achieve. This is not the time for paralysis, depression, or hopelessness. This is precisely the time for optimism.

If you have lost sight of your place in the world or can no longer find it within to live with optimism and hope, read Living with Certainty: Experience Deep-Soul Joy and then call or email me. Despite what the pundits say, the universe still awaits your magnificent individual contribution.

Living with Certainty Book Excerpt: From Chapter 26 – What’s Holding You Back: Measuring Up

Friday, August 27th, 2010

CHAPTER 26
Measuring Up

“There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives
at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide;
that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion.”
—Ralph Waldo Emerson

IF YOU HAVE LED a life of comparison, competition, envy, and
jealousy, it will be powerful and freeing for you to experience the
way this negativity falls away as you naturally begin to experience
the contentment and confidence that comes with living a life of
purposeful authenticity. Once you uncover your inspired soul-view,
self-love comes more easily, and the notion of comparing yourself to
others seems increasingly absurd and trivial.

Envy, jealousy, competition, and comparison exist only in your
mind thanks to your ego, which likes to isolate itself this way. As
you live with certainty, however, you increasingly accept that while
we are all connected at the level of essence, there is no value in
comparing your life, success, and achievements with others. By
virtue of our universal interconnectivity, we need and will be aided
by others, but we are never to measure ourselves against our fellow
humans. Rather, our benchmark should be how closely we emulate
the vibrational level of Source energy through our everyday thoughts,
beliefs, actions, and gratitude.

Without question, some people have suffered more hardship
than others. While this isn’t fair, we must understand that there is no
concept of fairness in the ways of our universe. There are only our
intended lessons.

Let go of the lack of fairness you’ve been focused on and replace
it with a more productive thought-focus. A so-called lack of fairness
may have caused you to endure the very hardships that have prepared
and strengthened you for the next level of your Earthly experience.
This isn’t to say that suffering is by its very nature good. Clearly no
one wants to endure it. But what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
through teaching you invaluable lessons.

Congratulate and Wish Others Well
Give due congratulations, accolades, recognition, and kudos to
others, even when this direct “competition” in your mind has won a
battle and you’re not happy about the outcome. When you do this,
you shift the frequency of your energy level to one far more positive
and life affirming.

All too often, we attempt to slander and disempower our
competitors, but if we could just remember that we’re all interconnected
souls, we would choose to behave differently. Competition is clearly
a man-made concept; the truth is that there is nothing but unlimited
abundance in the world. If we could truly understand this, we would
not harbor such negative, self-defeating, and distracting feelings.

Embrace Your Own Gifts
When you don’t have a sense of the authentic you, you can become
severely lacking in confidence and self-assurance. As you discover
your inspired soul-view, however, you know that your success and
the abundance available to you aren’t based on what anyone else has
or does. There is no need to compete. We are all unique, different,
and diverse, and we should like it that way. The universe benefits
from this diversity.

Regardless of who you compare yourself with, you will have the
same life—you’ll be just a bit more miserable. If you compare yourself
to people who have either more or less, you may feel either good or
bad. As you resent the success of others, you emit negative energy,
thereby harming your own life experience and weakening your ability
to co-create. Instead, celebrate the success of others if you want to
see more success in your own life. Extend love to others and begin
focusing on expressing your own purposeful authenticity and joy.

Jealousy
Feelings of jealousy are creatures of your own mind, and are
detrimental and destructive to your personal energy. Allow your
heightened awareness and internal instruction system to alert you to
feelings of jealousy so that you may quickly shift to a more positive,
comforting mindset. Otherwise, these feelings may draw more
obstacles and competition into your life. The silver lining of jealousy
is that it exists to make you aware of your own need to heal some of
your own shortcomings and soft spots.

Competition
Competition stems from the fear that you will not measure up, will
be revealed to be a failure, or will look bad due to someone else’s
success. You worry that there won’t be enough for you. Once again,
you can thank your ego for your feelings of inferiority to those who
somehow, in your mind, have more than you.

Businesses and corporations must compete effectively in order
to survive and thrive. However, the competition that exists between
individuals is the natural outgrowth of our external search to fill
internal voids. At the root of this interpersonal competition lies the
desire for power—and this is the root of much conflict and hate in
the world. As social beings, most of us live and work in communities
filled with other unfulfilled humans. This will never lead to strong,
compassionate human relations. We must change.

When you’re living competitively, you haven’t found your own
way yet; you aren’t living in alignment with your inspired soul-view.
Living with a scarcity mindset causes you to feel as if we all are
competing for a limited supply of material and professional success,
power, and accomplishment. Once you understand, however, that
it is unnecessary to compete with anyone for anything, you begin to
realize how much time and mental energy you’ve poured into the
wrong things. Yes, some people will always have more than you, and
you, in turn, will always have more than others. This is inevitable,
since we’re all unique individuals with unique souls living unique
lives. Rather than spending time competing with others, use that
time to live with certainty so that you can exploit your own unique
potential for the rest of your life.

Focus on abundance. Any time you feel territorial and competitive,
you’re focusing on a lack of something, rather than on the creation
of what you want. There are unlimited supplies of everything and
anything good in the universe—more than enough for everyone. It is
people who feel alone and inferior who focus the most on competition.
You’re not battling the world; you’re not competing for finite amounts
of anything. You are an empowered co-creator.

Comparison…

Soul Secrets of the C-Level

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

Here’s an example of someone whose life was transformed when she discovered her purposeful authenticity. A senior vice president of a multi-billion dollar, global company told me that as a child she had always had a nagging sense of unrest and anxiety, but she distracted herself by being a top student and athlete. She followed in the footsteps of her Ivy-league educated father because she wanted to be able to afford the same lavish lifestyle to which she had grown accustomed. This path was also expected of her so she felt she really had no choice in the matter.

She took great pride in being the ideal daughter, student and now corporate executive. Still, over the years the nagging sense of unrest and anxiety never left her. She diverted her attention by becoming a workaholic. She owned the best cars, clothes, jewelry, and homes — material success and status symbols were of the utmost importance to her. Then one day she was at a week-long corporate retreat when the high-profile author and speaker leading the seminar signaled her out of the crowd and asked her what she stood for and who she was outside of her corporate titles and accomplishments. She found herself at a loss for words. She did not have an answer because she had worked so hard and so fast for so long that her only identity had become that of her title and position within the company.

This one question sent her life into a tailspin as she awakened to the reality that she didn’t know who she was anymore. She did know immediately, however, that she wanted to change her life.

After almost a year of soul-searching, meditation, prayer, examining long-held beliefs and Living with Certainty, she resigned from corporate America and spent six-months traveling the world. When she returned home, she knew what she needed to do to finally set free, as she put it, the nagging sense of unrest and anxiety that she had experienced her entire life.

Her greatest gift in life is oil painting — her vivid re-creations of her family members and seascapes were truly her life’s proudest accomplishments.  As a child, while her artistic abilities were appreciated, they were not encouraged as a proper career. She decided that she was finally going to live a life that allowed her to share and express this innate artistic ability. Today she has a booming business and gallery in which the focus of her artwork is primarily children, families, and seascapes. Looking back at her accomplished corporate career, she says that she never once experienced the authenticity, depth, fulfillment and involvedness that she now experiences every day. She knows that part of the angst she experienced throughout her entire life was caused by her soul aching for this missing dimension. She now knows the profound depth and meaning of living with purposeful authenticity and deep-soul joy.

Living with Certainty: Experience Deep-Soul Joy Book Launch

Monday, August 9th, 2010

Today is a big day for me — Living with Certainty: Experience Deep-Soul Joy is officially released! As you might imagine, this day represents a significant milestone in my life. It represents the culmination and intersection of most every significant aspect of my life, including having thousands of conversations and interviews with executives, reading hundreds of books ranging from leadership to spirituality, and following a deep calling, overwhelming passion, and instinct. Most of all, though, this book is the tangible result of my own personal journey of “living with certainty.” Every aspect of this book represents how I try to live my life on a daily basis.

Is it hard to live this way — with certainty? Not at all — this is how we were meant to live. Does it take effort and discipline? Yes!  I face the same Earthly and ego challenges as everyone else, but I consistently follow my passion, listen to my internal instruction system, and, above all, I live with purposeful authenticity. My life truly is one of deep-soul joy, love, and abundance. I was meant to write this book; I was meant to communicate this message to the world. Of that, I am certain.

Don’t get me wrong; this was not an easy undertaking. I have three small children and am unwaveringly committed to spending considerable quality time with them every single day. I work and “work out” five days a week and also make time daily to spend with my husband, my best friend. Despite the madness, this book had to be written. Early mornings, late nights, every weekend — whenever there was an opening, I seized upon it and wrote as efficiently as possible. Besides having 100% unwavering commitment to seeing this project through to completion, I also had amazing family support.

This is the beginning of a new life for me. My deepest hope is that Living with Certainty: Experience Deep-Soul Joy makes a positive difference in your life, thereby making a difference in the world. The world needs more people who stand for something good. What can you do support this lofty undertaking, you may ask:

-          Buy the book for yourself

-          Give the book as a gift

-          Encourage your book club to read it

-          Invite me to speak at your next event

-          Recommend the book to your friends – email all your friends about it

-          “Talk” about the book (and specifically recommend it) on your social media sites

-          “Like” the Living with Certainty Facebook page

-          Follow me on Twitter

-          Join the Certainty Chain on http://www.Livingwithcertainty.com

-          Write a blog about the book

-          Write reviews about the book at Amazon.com and BN.com

-          Provide referrals for additional media coverage

What have you been longing to do, but keep putting off? If you feel a burning desire to do something, wait no longer. Be bold, be passionate, and be productive. Move yourself forward – even in small ways – every single day and you can and will accomplish big things. Don’t let naysayers, overbearing co-workers, family members, nasty neighbors, or anyone else get you down, get in your way, or take you off-track. This is your one chance to make your mark, to carve out your legacy. Grab ahold every day and make it happen. You can make a difference in people’s lives while exponentially increasing your own peace, fulfillment, and deep-soul joy. Go forward and live with certainty! xo

Meditation: Yes, You Can (and Must) Do This!

Saturday, August 7th, 2010

I can’t even begin to count the times I have discussed with people the power and importance of meditation only to hear the same old thing: “I can’t do it. I’ve tried and I just can’t turn my brain off.” Well, welcome to the world of meditation and monkey mind. Everyone initially faces the same hurdles, but over time the practice becomes easier. And the positive effects are immediate. Regardless of who or where you are, the fact is that as you meditate you begin to uncover your essence. Period.

Meditation is the essential, essence-unveiling practice that you should incorporate into your life – for the rest of your life. During short periods when I have stopped meditating, I noticed that I quickly lost my baseline and became more prone to emotional responses, anger, stress, and knee-jerk reactions. I now know that meditation is the essential practice that allows me to view my life through a spiritual lens and as an objective observer as it slows me down, heightens my awareness, enables greater compassion, and allows me to be more contemplative.

I look forward all day to my meditation practice which is the foundation of  my spiritual efforts and the primary means by which I remain in alignment with Source energy and live from my inspired soul-view. My practice typically takes place at the same time and place every day and is the time when I can finally exhale, surrender, and just be. The benefits for me have been extraordinary. Almost immediately I noticed that I was experiencing much less anxiety; lifelong patterns and conditioning that were limiting me were weakened. This time of communion with my inspired soul-view led me to transition out of a particularly stressful circumstance which has allowed me to transform and enrich my entire life.

Fortunately, the practice came easily for me; however, I have many friends who struggle with it as they claim they are simply unable to still and quiet themselves. If you find this to be the case, I strongly suggest that you search for a qualified meditation instructor.

Meditation has taken me to a place of essence so deep within myself that when my session ends, for several minutes I sometimes feel like a completely different person than the often frazzled, working mom I was just 20-40 minutes prior. During my sessions, without fail, my sense of self becomes one of interconnectivity and compassion as I grasp the vastness of the universe and experience my soul in glimpses and glimmers. I know now that much of the restlessness I have previously experienced in my life was my soul longing to be nurtured, express itself, and experience a deeper, sustained connection with my physical, Earthly life. My spiritual journey has been a step by step process. Once I began to pray, the door was cracked opened; once I began to meditate, the door swung wide open allowing me to further know and experience prolonged periods of connection, compassion, enlightenment, peace, and joy. As I focused on these things and made them a priority, the transformation in my life was nothing short of remarkable. Meditation has empowered me to focus and feel in my life in a way that I could not have previously – it has allowed me to live with certainty. It can and will do the same for you.

Go forth and Live with Certainty! xo