One things is for sure: Most of us are extremely wrapped up in our own thoughts…which, by the way, are not merely fleeting impressions without consequence. These words and voices in our heads carry power, have repercussions and can be exhausting. We feed our minds daily with needless preoccupations and destructive messaging, and it’s rare that we live with the wise awareness and wherewithal to catch ourselves doing so and then quickly switch gears to the more positve and productive. No, it’s much easier to remain stuck in the worrisome, needlessly escalating and blowing things out of proportion.

We have all, at some time, been guilty of making mountains out of molehills. We mentally tortured ourselves by a thought that should have just come and gone – passed through with no more than a brief acknowledgment – but instead we allowed ourselves to get stuck. Remember, when you allow this to happen, you are changing your trajectory – maybe just for that day, but if this happens frequently, you are changing your life. You’re hardly blazing new trails into a new and exciting future, but rather you are stuck and spinning your wheels in a zone of negativity and static.

But it needn’t be this way. The fact — for all of us — is that thoughts are by their very nature fleeting and impermanent, and as such can be changed at any time. The ability to be discerning with regard to where you place your thought focus is a trait of people who are remarkably joyous and successful. Your thoughts and feelings feed upon each other, affecting your choices and actions, and thus co-creating your circumstances. As you think and feel a certain way, you make certain choices that create your circumstances. So, to change your circumstances, change your throughts. Easier said than done…but essential.

Living with Certainty is a powerful way of being that will help you to control your thoughts, and change your life. When our thoughts are in alignment with our inspired soul-view and the life the universe always intended for us to live, we feel good and our emotions are positive. However, as thoughts create in you feelings of stress, tension, anxiety, disappointment, distress, frustration, regret or discontent, this is your internal instruction system communicating with you that this thought is not in alignment with your inspired soul-view. Remember, you are completely in control of whether you experience these feelings. Thoughts create emotions, and emotions are your most powerful indicator as to whether you are living in alignment with your inspired soul-view. Without accompanying emotion, your thoughts are impotent. With positive, feel-good emotion, you allow yourself to tap into the flow of your spiritual power frequency to co-create the life the universe always intended for you to live. This is Living with Certainty.

Kristi LeBlanc

When you can really answer all of these life questions with authentic, deeply-felt answers, you have developed a centered sense of self, and are truly on a path to create an authentic, passionate, and purposeful life. Living with Certainty requires that you know how you feel — that you can answer all of these questions.

Who are you?
Why are you here?
What is your purpose in life?
What do you want to do?
Who do you want to be?
Where do you want to be?
What do you want to have?
What can you contribute?
How will you make your choices?
How do you want to feel?
What are your core beliefs?
What are your core values?
What are your priorities?
What are your goals?
What are your deepest desires?
What are you afraid of?
What are your great enthusiasms, excitements and passions?
What do you most treasure? What matters to you the most?
Who do you love? What are you doing about it?
What are you most grateful for? Do you celebrate what you do have?
What have you done lately that was really worth remembering?
Which activities make you lose track of time?
How do you want to serve?
What makes you feel the happiest and most engaged?
What brings you great joy?
What does your perfect day look like?
What are your greatest strengths and leverage points?
What are your hurdles?
What are you holding on to that you should let go of? What’s holding you back?
What do you want to learn?
Who are your teachers?
If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
What is your fun?
Time or money?
What makes you smile?
Who do you want in your life?
What do you need?
How do you differentiate between just existing and really living?
What must you accomplish before you die?
If you could do it all over again, would you change anything?
What would you do differently if you knew nobody would judge you?
What are you most proud of?
If not now, then when?

We all basically know what ego is, and we’ve seen its impact on lives, relationships and the planet. And while most all of us could benefit from lessening its grip on our lives, our egos will always be a part of us. The fact remains, however, that out-of-check egos have ruined people. And even if your ego isn’t demonstratively affecting your life, if your ego is in charge of how you move through and perceive your life, you will constantly experience unnecessary highs and lows based on what your ego-in-charge is observing external to you.

Your ego can actually direct you to act in indifferent ways that are divisive and destructive

Remember, ego is a construct of yours — you’ve created the extent to which your ego is – or isn’t – in charge. How it speaks to you – and controls you – is not necessarily reality-based. Your ego can actually direct you to act in indifferent ways that are divisive and destructive. This becomes apparent in how you treat everyone with whom you come into contact. Your ego can really jerk you around if your sense of self is rooted in your ego. Your ego is completely enraptured with — and protective of itself — with absolutely no desire to melt away for the sake of freeing the Soul as the true (and to be trusted) mediator of your entire being.

Your ego can block the discovery and expression of your most authentic inspiration and creativity. It’s more concerned with protecting you, constructing defenses, preventing you from taking risks, criticizing others, and finding ways for you to receive praise and approval. These are not the traits that will lead you to a life of greatness, fulfillment and joy.

I have had so many people in my life with massive ego issues. I have watched in endless fascination as they pounced on every possible opportunity to arrogantly point out the faults or short-comings of others. Clearly some of these individuals enjoyed – even thrived off of – the feeling of superiority this provided to them. It was their little thrill for the day, the moment of validation they lived for because it allowed them to maintain their ego’s identity. If this describes you, not only do you have some real work to do, but realize that a life of deep-soul joy and purposeful authenticity is passing you by as you remove yourself from any kind of meaningful dialogue with the person whom you’ve set your sites on.

As you begin to live with certainty and embrace your true self as your soul – that inherently balanced state of bliss and pure love – you will get a sense for how much work lies ahead based on how far your current state is from your inspired soul-view-aligned life. It is amazing to so commonly witness how we corrode and cover – largely through the shenanigans of our ego-personality – such a purely blissful core. But this is Earthly life – our greatest challenge then is to remove the years of conditioned corrosion so that in our day to day experiences we can live from our soul-center and experience the deep-soul joy that has always been intended for us.

Imagine the discovery and expansion of your inspired soul-view through your heightened awareness as tantamount to enabling space for a flower bud — your inspired soul-view — to begin to expand and open. Awareness is the clear space that must exist around the delicate petals so that they can open ever-wider in all of their natural, miraculous beauty until they reach full potentiality. Open space is required to prevent the petals from becoming confined, restricted, bruised and crushed. With your ego, you can never let your awareness fail because the insipid ego wants nothing more than to once again encroach upon – and crush – the delicate petals of your inspired soul-view. Ongoing awareness and intention act as a light, delicate mist that allow the petals to stay fresh and hydrated.

Up until now, you may have solely filled your mind and life with thoughts and actions that are ego-personality based, not at all inspired soul-view-based. You are not alone – those individuals who live in alignment with their inspired soul-view and experience deep-soul joy as the foundational state of their existence are few and far between, but it need not be this way. Through living with certainty, you will learn how to navigate yourself – your entire mental, physical and spiritual being. While the ego will fight to maintain the state of status quo it has lived in for so long, this approach to life is the antidote.

Some people innately live with certainty – they are evolved souls naturally in touch with their purposeful authenticity; they naturally resonate energy at a high-frequency and naturally know how to create and attract the life the universe always intended for them to live. Keep in mind that I am not talking about the monetarily successful, blinded-by-ego, bluster-filled people whom we all know – they are not living with certainty. While they can quite skillfully create material abundance, they typically are greatly lacking in terms of their inner existence – they may constantly find themselves in conflicts and hot water and feel hollow inside despite all of their riches.

Master your ego; don’t let it be the Master of the real, authentic you.

I have found it to be surprisingly challenging throughout my journey to train my mind to let go of the things that my ego-personality had conditioned me over my lifetime to think I need to be happy. Let’s say I have been thinking for thirty years that I need a 20,000 square foot mansion to be happy and, subsequently, have been striving – with great frustration – for decades to attain it. Once I discover my inspired soul-view, I must face the fact that this life with the mansion that I’ve been envisioning is really not that which will bring me deep-soul joy and is not in alignment with my soul-view. This realization takes time to process and release. For me, it is an ongoing effort to de-condition myself and begin focusing on soul-view-aligned thoughts and desires that lead to my deep-soul joy. The mansion may come through the expression of my purposeful authenticity, but it won’t be the goal, nor will it be at the expense of my joy.

Through meditation and enhanced awareness, you can begin to lessen your ego’s stranglehold. You can begin to become more of whom you were always meant to be. You can begin to experience more joy and fulfillment in your life. Master your ego; don’t let it be the Master of the real, authentic you.

“May all living beings have happiness

            And the cause of happiness;

May all be free from sorrow

            And the cause of sorrow;

May all never be separated

            From the Bliss that is sorrowless;

May all live in equanimity,

            Free from attachment and aversion.

~ The Four Immeasurables Prayer

Deep. Soul. Joy. Think for a moment about those three words. Standing alone, they each in their own right are important words and concepts, but together they are life-changing. Deep-soul joy is experienced when you live in such a way that your purpose and passion are set free; your sense of universal interconnectivity is ignited and your joy rises.

When you live with certainty and deep-soul joy, you live differently than perpetually discontented people. When I sense revelatory moments of deep-soul joy coming, I stop what I am doing and immerse myself in the moment, surrendering to the flow and allowing it to absorb into every cell in my body. Gratitude is my only conscious thought – any other thoughts make the experience disappear as quickly as it appeared.

With the proper approach and intent you can experience deep-soul joy. Whether you live in a hut in Nairobi, a rambler in Minneapolis, a flat in London, a mansion in Beverly Hills, a cottage in Nice, or an apartment in Krakow, you, too, can experience deep-soul joy. I understand how difficult and complex lives can be and how foreign this concept may be if you are a victim of bullying, a disenfranchised LGBT youth, or a woman going through a divorce or suffering from depression. But there can be a light at the end of the tunnel as you learn to Live with Certainty.

Concepts such as joy, happiness, success, and abundance can mean very different things to different people. Joy is a more profound emotional state of contentment and well-being than happiness. Joy is a deep feeling of pleasure or gladness that comes from success, good fortune, or a general sense of well-being. And to take this concept to the next level, deep-soul joy is an even higher, more profound level of joy that is spiritual, energetic, authentic, nourishing, and life-long. This deep sense of well-being and contentment emanates from your soul and serves as an intrinsic aspect of your internal instruction system which is discussed at lenght in Living with Certainty: Experience Deep-Soul Joy.

The universe has graced you with everything you need to experience a life of deep-soul joy; it is all inside of you now. Nothing else – besides the actions and work to exercise your passion and purpose - is required. You may, however, need to shed a few things. Releasing attachments to your ego-personality and false personas — actually mentally detaching and surrendering to the real you — is incredibly freeing and powerful. Previously, you may have felt anxious or fearful to expose the real you worried about being ridiculed or not fitting in once your authentic self is discovered. However, surrendering to your inspired soul-view and your purposeful authenticity is required. It may initially cause you to feel anxious if you perceive this as giving up control.

My Deep-Soul Joy

My deep-soul joy is the steady state from which I live my daily life – it has become who I am and how I interact with every aspect of the universe. From this state of joy and contentment, I experience heightened, intense revelatory moments – super-concentrated doses of joy that emerge from the more constant state. These moments periodically happen as I go about my day to day life; suddenly I find myself overcome with joy, wonder and bliss often to the point of tears. Deep, moving and exhilarating, surging Source love and inspiration pulse through my body literally giving me goose bumps.

In some respects, I feel that I have always known deep-soul joy. My earliest memories are of financially humble – albeit delightful — beginnings. I cannot stress enough how well-served I was by the joyful, peaceful early conditioning I received throughout those early years. For the first four and a half years of my life, I had the distinct privilege of living in extremely close proximity to my grandparents and extended family in Southern California in the late ‘60s and early ‘70s. Without a doubt, my family — and extended family — has known deep-soul joy for generations. Effortlessly and innately, they lived and experienced lives of peace and fulfillment. First-generation immigrants brimming with courage and hope they brought with them the belief and faith that are precisely the stuff from which inspiration and dreams are made. Some people simply call it la dolce vita, the sweet joy of everyday, no-frills life. In those Utopian years in Southern California, I spent some of the sweetest times with my family that I have ever experienced (and I’ve had some pretty sweet times since then). These early role models may not have had much money, but they were compassionate, loving and cheerful people who were very involved in their church community and had many, many dear friends. They were homeowners with beautiful yards and gardens rich with fruit and walnut trees, herbs, vegetables, roses and berries. Their neighbors were like extended family. My beautiful grandmother, Rose, was completely deaf, but had a twinkle in her eye as she emanated peacefulness. Her dream was to be a teacher, but, at that time, sadly, her hearing disability precluded this. She did not, however, let this destroy her natural state of peace and joy. My grandparents lived in a simple yet park-like landscaped setting – I recall a horse who would routinely amble up to the back fence to greet us–and Penny, the family Beagle. The sun always seemed to shine on Yarmouth Street.

My grandparents raised three children on an extremely limited income, and yet their financial status had no bearing on their joy. Every night they had a lovely family dinner. For Christmas, my grandfather’s black socks substituted for the children’s stockings which were filled with only a dime, an orange and a walnut. For Easter, the children shared one single Easter basket.  Across the street lived a well-to-do family that was not at all happy; their festive silk Christmas stockings were filled with all manner of toys and candies. And their Easter table was set with a large Easter basket at each place setting. Yet this family was always embroiled in conflict and unhappiness. Did my family notice that materially they had less than others? Yes. Did it affect their joy and the love they had for one another? No way.

Now, I completely understand that my grandparents were not joyous over not having much money; it was an ongoing struggle. Rather, these lovely people were joyous despite not having much money. They were internally at peace in a fundamental way that their external situation could not shake. They knew deep-soul joy.

Once I began living from my inspired soul-view (a life of deep purposefulness and passion), a foundational state of deep-soul joy slowly emerged and took over, forever altering my perspective. I gained peace in knowing that I am living the life the universe always intended for my soul to experience. I know at my core that I can weather any storm, I am not alone, I am loved and I am secure. Most of all, I know that I am interconnected with the greater universe, connected to Source energy, and no matter what happens, my soul will go on its essential state of grace and deep-soul joy. And this experience will continue to be mine as long as I go on living with purposeful authenticity.

When I am graced with these deep, authentic moments, I become my deep-soul joy and am completely open to the universal energetic flow and where it is guiding me. My outer world stops as I experience this very natural state of alignment. A deep sense of awareness and gratitude for this inspirational and revelatory rush of Source energy puts me in the best possible position to maintain this alignment. I never take these moments for granted for they are a gift, the ultimate experience of an Earthly life and affirm that I am living with certainty.

My responsibility for receiving this “song-in my–heart” gift of deep-soul joy is to share it with others. I once had someone tell me that they “appreciate my sparkle.Funny, when I experience deep-soul joy, I feel open, luminous (I call it sparkly) and connected. There are times that I feel so joyous that I am completely overcome with emotion and gratitude.

So you see, I am beyond deeply satisfied with my life – and I wish the same for you. Yes, I experience my share of challenges, down times, defeats, sorrows, heartaches, problems and obstacles – these experiences are part and parcel of living an Earthly life and they lurk in the background waiting to pounce on all of us in order that we may learn our next needed lesson. I readily expect these things to rear their ugly heads from time to time and am, therefore, not overly emotional or despondent when trouble appears on the horizon; never have I believed that any obstacle could stop me. It is precisely the trying times that have taught, developed and enlightened me in ways that otherwise would have been impossible. They have served as the catalyst for much needed change. Now that I live with certainty, I perceive difficulties very differently than I did before. I believe I encounter fewer negative experiences now simply because I no longer create negativity through non-inspired soul-view-aligned actions; nor do I attract and manifest the things that I do not want through self-defeating thoughts, beliefs and emotions.

Am I still making mistakes today? You bet’cha – every day, but I am constantly learning, growing and trying not to beat myself up too much. Through my own mistakes I have learned much about compassion – and for these experiences, wrenching as they were at the time, I am grateful. As you embrace every encounter as a learning and growth opportunity, you can leave anger and resentment behind. Immediately find the lesson in every difficult situation – and don’t make the same mistake twice. When you view life through this lens, you open to the experience of deep-soul joy. My innate approach to life is to place far more emphasis on the positive than on the negative. Through living with certainty, you will begin more naturally to embrace this approach, too. While living in anxiety-laden, tenuous times, I remain joyous and thankful for my life, convinced that the best days for my family and me are ahead. No matter what happens externally, I will live from this continual state of deep-soul joy.