Book Excerpt: Chapter 26 | Measuring Up | Living with Certainty

“There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide; that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion.” —Ralph Waldo Emerson

IF YOU HAVE LED a life of comparison, competition, envy, and jealousy, it will be powerful and freeing for you to experience the way this negativity falls away as you naturally begin to experience the contentment and confidence that comes with living a life of purposeful authenticity. Once you uncover your inspired soul-view, self-love comes more easily, and the notion of comparing yourself to others seems increasingly absurd and trivial.

Envy, jealousy, competition, and comparison exist only in your mind thanks to your ego, which likes to isolate itself this way. As you live with certainty, however, you increasingly accept that while we are all connected at the level of essence, there is no value in comparing your life, success, and achievements with others. By virtue of our universal interconnectivity, we need and will be aided by others, but we are never to measure ourselves against our fellow humans. Rather, our benchmark should be how closely we emulate the vibrational level of Source energy through our everyday thoughts, beliefs, actions, and gratitude.

Without question, some people have suffered more hardship than others. While this isn’t fair, we must understand that there is no concept of fairness in the ways of our universe. There are only our intended lessons.

Let go of the lack of fairness you’ve been focused on and replace it with a more productive thought-focus.
A so-called lack of fairness may have caused you to endure the very hardships that have prepared and strengthened you for the next level of your Earthly experience. This isn’t to say that suffering is by its very nature good. Clearly no one wants to endure it. But what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger through teaching you invaluable lessons.

Congratulate and Wish Others Well
Give due congratulations, accolades, recognition, and kudos to others, even when this direct “competition” in your mind has won a battle and you’re not happy about the outcome. When you do this, you shift the frequency of your energy level to one far more positive and life affirming.

All too often, we attempt to slander and disempower our competitors, but if we could just remember that we’re all interconnected souls, we would choose to behave differently. Competition is clearly a man-made concept; the truth is that there is nothing but unlimited abundance in the world. If we could truly understand this, we would not harbor such negative, self-defeating, and distracting feelings.

Embrace Your Own Gifts
When you don’t have a sense of the authentic you, you can become severely lacking in confidence and self-assurance. As you discover your inspired soul-view, however, you know that your success and the abundance available to you aren’t based on what anyone else has or does. There is no need to compete. We are all unique, different, and diverse, and we should like it that way. The universe benefits from this diversity.

Regardless of who you compare yourself with, you will have the same life—you’ll be just a bit more miserable.
If you compare yourself to people who have either more or less, you may feel either good or bad. As you resent the success of others, you emit negative energy, thereby harming your own life experience and weakening your ability to co-create. Instead, celebrate the success of others if you want to see more success in your own life. Extend love to others and begin focusing on expressing your own purposeful authenticity and joy.

Feelings of jealousy are creatures of your own mind, and are detrimental and destructive to your personal energy. Allow your heightened awareness and internal instruction system to alert you to feelings of jealousy so that you may quickly shift to a more positive, comforting mindset. Otherwise, these feelings may draw more obstacles and competition into your life. The silver lining of jealousy is that it exists to make you aware of your own need to heal some of your own shortcomings and soft spots.

Competition stems from the fear that you will not measure up, will be revealed to be a failure, or will look bad due to someone else’s success. You worry that there won’t be enough for you. Once again, you can thank your ego for your feelings of inferiority to those who somehow, in your mind, have more than you.

Businesses and corporations must compete effectively in order to survive and thrive. However, the competition that exists between individuals is the natural outgrowth of our external search to fill internal voids. At the root of this interpersonal competition lies the desire for power—and this is the root of much conflict and hate in the world. As social beings, most of us live and work in communities filled with other unfulfilled humans. This will never lead to strong, compassionate human relations. We must change.

When you’re living competitively, you haven’t found your own way yet; you aren’t living in alignment with your inspired soul-view. Living with a scarcity mindset causes you to feel as if we all are competing for a limited supply of material and professional success, power, and accomplishment. Once you understand, however, that it is unnecessary to compete with anyone for anything, you begin to realize how much time and mental energy you’ve poured into the wrong things. Yes, some people will always have more than you, and you, in turn, will always have more than others. This is inevitable, since we’re all unique individuals with unique souls living unique lives. Rather than spending time competing with others, use that time to live with certainty so that you can exploit your own unique potential for the rest of your life.

Focus on abundance.
Any time you feel territorial and competitive, you’re focusing on a lack of something, rather than on the creation of what you want. There are unlimited supplies of everything and anything good in the universe—more than enough for everyone. It is people who feel alone and inferior who focus the most on competition. You’re not battling the world; you’re not competing for finite amounts of anything. You are an empowered co-creator.

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