Living with Certainty Book Excerpt: From Chapter 26 – What’s Holding You Back: Measuring Up

Measuring Up

“There is a time in every man’s education when he arrives
at the conviction that envy is ignorance; that imitation is suicide;
that he must take himself for better, for worse, as his portion.”
—Ralph Waldo Emerson

IF YOU HAVE LED a life of comparison, competition, envy, and
jealousy, it will be powerful and freeing for you to experience the
way this negativity falls away as you naturally begin to experience
the contentment and confidence that comes with living a life of
purposeful authenticity. Once you uncover your inspired soul-view,
self-love comes more easily, and the notion of comparing yourself to
others seems increasingly absurd and trivial.

Envy, jealousy, competition, and comparison exist only in your
mind thanks to your ego, which likes to isolate itself this way. As
you live with certainty, however, you increasingly accept that while
we are all connected at the level of essence, there is no value in
comparing your life, success, and achievements with others. By
virtue of our universal interconnectivity, we need and will be aided
by others, but we are never to measure ourselves against our fellow
humans. Rather, our benchmark should be how closely we emulate
the vibrational level of Source energy through our everyday thoughts,
beliefs, actions, and gratitude.

Without question, some people have suffered more hardship
than others. While this isn’t fair, we must understand that there is no
concept of fairness in the ways of our universe. There are only our
intended lessons.

Let go of the lack of fairness you’ve been focused on and replace
it with a more productive thought-focus. A so-called lack of fairness
may have caused you to endure the very hardships that have prepared
and strengthened you for the next level of your Earthly experience.
This isn’t to say that suffering is by its very nature good. Clearly no
one wants to endure it. But what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger
through teaching you invaluable lessons.

Congratulate and Wish Others Well
Give due congratulations, accolades, recognition, and kudos to
others, even when this direct “competition” in your mind has won a
battle and you’re not happy about the outcome. When you do this,
you shift the frequency of your energy level to one far more positive
and life affirming.

All too often, we attempt to slander and disempower our
competitors, but if we could just remember that we’re all interconnected
souls, we would choose to behave differently. Competition is clearly
a man-made concept; the truth is that there is nothing but unlimited
abundance in the world. If we could truly understand this, we would
not harbor such negative, self-defeating, and distracting feelings.

Embrace Your Own Gifts
When you don’t have a sense of the authentic you, you can become
severely lacking in confidence and self-assurance. As you discover
your inspired soul-view, however, you know that your success and
the abundance available to you aren’t based on what anyone else has
or does. There is no need to compete. We are all unique, different,
and diverse, and we should like it that way. The universe benefits
from this diversity.

Regardless of who you compare yourself with, you will have the
same life—you’ll be just a bit more miserable. If you compare yourself
to people who have either more or less, you may feel either good or
bad. As you resent the success of others, you emit negative energy,
thereby harming your own life experience and weakening your ability
to co-create. Instead, celebrate the success of others if you want to
see more success in your own life. Extend love to others and begin
focusing on expressing your own purposeful authenticity and joy.

Feelings of jealousy are creatures of your own mind, and are
detrimental and destructive to your personal energy. Allow your
heightened awareness and internal instruction system to alert you to
feelings of jealousy so that you may quickly shift to a more positive,
comforting mindset. Otherwise, these feelings may draw more
obstacles and competition into your life. The silver lining of jealousy
is that it exists to make you aware of your own need to heal some of
your own shortcomings and soft spots.

Competition stems from the fear that you will not measure up, will
be revealed to be a failure, or will look bad due to someone else’s
success. You worry that there won’t be enough for you. Once again,
you can thank your ego for your feelings of inferiority to those who
somehow, in your mind, have more than you.

Businesses and corporations must compete effectively in order
to survive and thrive. However, the competition that exists between
individuals is the natural outgrowth of our external search to fill
internal voids. At the root of this interpersonal competition lies the
desire for power—and this is the root of much conflict and hate in
the world. As social beings, most of us live and work in communities
filled with other unfulfilled humans. This will never lead to strong,
compassionate human relations. We must change.

When you’re living competitively, you haven’t found your own
way yet; you aren’t living in alignment with your inspired soul-view.
Living with a scarcity mindset causes you to feel as if we all are
competing for a limited supply of material and professional success,
power, and accomplishment. Once you understand, however, that
it is unnecessary to compete with anyone for anything, you begin to
realize how much time and mental energy you’ve poured into the
wrong things. Yes, some people will always have more than you, and
you, in turn, will always have more than others. This is inevitable,
since we’re all unique individuals with unique souls living unique
lives. Rather than spending time competing with others, use that
time to live with certainty so that you can exploit your own unique
potential for the rest of your life.

Focus on abundance. Any time you feel territorial and competitive,
you’re focusing on a lack of something, rather than on the creation
of what you want. There are unlimited supplies of everything and
anything good in the universe—more than enough for everyone. It is
people who feel alone and inferior who focus the most on competition.
You’re not battling the world; you’re not competing for finite amounts
of anything. You are an empowered co-creator.